Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Monday, July 16, 2012

5 Month Reflections

Each month, my first thought is: "look how far we've come". Each month shows the progress in our attachment as a family, the way our children have embraced their new life and the way they are coping with grief and loss. The pure joy that they experience is now evident and they are allowing themselves to feel that. And when they grieve, they allow us to join them instead of withdrawing. Thank you God for the progress!

We still have many "firsts" as a family of 6. Like explaining why dressing up like a cow gets you a free meal at Chick Fil A! Kofi still finds American customs strange at times, and it brings back memories of when I first came to America as an exchange student. Some things you just have to experience and once again they are good sports!

These two....they just melt my heart. Initially Agyeiwaa didn't want anything to do with Jake. He was so gentle and kind to her, and she just ignored him. Now, all his hard work of reading books to her, playing puzzles, even playing princess have paid off. Everywhere we go, they hold hands and have the best time together.

Life is not perfect (when is it). There are times where I still feel overwhelmed parenting 4 children and I am on my knees praying for wisdom. But a family unit is emerging. Day by day.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Sweet Sisters

Emmi is 13, Agyeiwaa is 3 (for 2 more weeks). I thought their age difference would keep them from growing into a close relationship. I regretted that Emmi would never know what a sisterly bond would be because of the years of infertility that kept that dream from becoming a reality. This was the relationship I worried most about, prayed about and tried to figure out in my head. I wanted them to really hit it off.

Not sure why I was so worried? Out of all 4 siblings, these 2 are so close. Emmi is such a tender big sister, she loves playing princess games and tea parties and ballerina dance lessons with Agyeiwaa. In fact they are so close that I must approach their bond with caution so that it doesn't become the primary attachment for Agyeiwaa. Thankfully, she is treating Emmi as a sister, not Mommy, but certainly something to be aware of. When Emmi is at a sleepover or overnight camp, this little girl asks about 10 million times when her big sissy is returning back home.